Matchmaking Versus Courting

If you are a subscriber of 1 Weddings Readings, you probably still remember the article Material Versus Romantic. It has inspired me to offer you this Matchmaking Versus Courting.

Matchmaking is obsolete. Parents don’t talk about it nowadays. Young people don’t even have the motion of what it is as they don’t have to go through that stage before their weddings.

With the advent of love match, matchmaking was forced to take the hind seat. Courting before wedding is the norm today. Matchmaking only comes into play when singles fail to find their wedding mates which is a rarity by today’s standard. They then have to surrender their fate to the matchmakers who claimed themselves experts in the matching game.

Modern generations, however, do not take to matchmaking because they abhor the idea of betting their future in the hands of a third person - the matchmaker.

If a match-made wedding did not see the couple through fingers would then point at, not the couple, but the matchmaker. It was the matchmaker who ruined the life of the couple, so it was thought. It was the fault of the matchmaker who arranged the wedding. Relationships between the couple’s families and the matchmaker would turn sour. Enmity might even be the end-result.

But in a love match wedding if the marriage does not sail smooth, the couple can only blame themselves for being blind to the other’s weaknesses. But now after the wedding, little foibles have become intolerable with the sweet-loving-courting days being over.

Matchmaking is done, more often than not, as a gesture of kindness. But beware, it may misfire and land you in trouble. Why not leave the young people to choose and make their own decisions as to whom they want to marry?

By Stefanie